A couple were having a bit of marital trouble. Near their wits’ end, they approached their Tzaddik and asked him, “Can you help us? We have prayed for patience toward each other and it seems to elude us.”
Their Tzaddik jumped from his chair. “Get out!” He yelled. “I have no time for you!” He turned and stomped out of his office.
“Rabbi.” The couple look at each other dejected. “How do you think this makes us feel?”
The Rabbis turned to them and smiled. “This is your first lesson on how to be patient with others.”
Praying or hoping for patience is a waste of your time except you learn to be empathetic. Step out of yourself and stop being so full of yourself.
Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick-tempered displays folly. (Proverbs 14:29)